This whole Covid-19 lockdown thing and so many people being in fear got me thinking…
So we’ve all been locked up inside our homes for quite some time now, partially because we were told to, but some choose to stay there by choice and out of fear.
We’ve been told that there is a life threatening danger outside the walls of our homes and we’ve had our eyes fixed on the media who continuously provides us with more and more evidence that supports our belief that locking ourselves within the confines of our homes is the way for us to take control over and avoid the perceived threat and danger that is outside of it.
Although the fact that we are locked down in our homes is very real to us at present, we’ve actually really locked ourselves up in our own hearts too.
We’ve all experienced being hurt, disappointed, rejected and mistreated by others or experiences. We’ve all seen some things in the world out there that were not so good to see or experience. We’ve all read and heard the stories of how “evil & dangerous” the world outside is. And that has caused many of us to lock our hearts away behind big walls to keep anything out that would cause us any discomfort or pain.
We’re told by society that the way to keep ourselves emotionally and mentally safe is to put walls around our hearts and lock ourselves in there to take control of never being hurt, rejected or disappointed. And life has given us more than enough evidence to support that. So we keep our hearts locked up in order to protect ourselves and feel like we are in control of keeping any danger out and at bay.
But just like remaining locked up in our homes out of fear cannot indefinitely be sustained and will eventually lead to us running out of much needed resources for survival, our hearts being locked up behind walls will eventually also be depleted of much needed resources for its survival, causing our hearts to grow hard, selfish and cold.
And once we’ve locked our hearts behind those walls, we never go beyond the walls because that feels “unsafe” so we keeps our dreams, hopes, desires and love locked up inside, slowly depriving it of what it desperately needs to thrive.
If you want to know how restrictive your walls around your heart really are, imagine yourself for a second walking straight in the direction of what you fear to allow in (or project out from it).
Does that feel uncomfortable? Notice for a moment what your chest area is doing. You can literally feel your heart closing up, shrinking and it doesn’t feel good at all right? That’s because you’ve taught your heart to close which goes against its natural state of being.
If life has taught you that when you love someone you’ll get hurt, chances are that if you try to move beyond the wall you built around your heart because of it, you’ll intuitively want to pull back to avoid smashing into it. And that’s what keeps you bound up and locked inside your heart’s perimeters. You become a prisoner to your fears.
And if you’re really honest with yourself, what you really desire is to break free and to let it out right? What you really want is to love and be loved without any fear or restriction. But you deprive yourself of it and lock all of that love and all of that desire up in there out of fear of what your mind fabricates and tells you will happen if you do.
Here’s the thing … The walls around your heart aren’t just keeping the real you in, it is keeping everything else out too.
What we’re really afraid of is of remaining locked up when we’re really dying to come out, but we silence it (which really causes you more pain and suffering) because we are too afraid of the unknown that lies beyond the walls.
Lets look at that word again … UNKNOWN. That in itself should tell us that what our minds are making up and telling us will happen if we do break out past our walls, isn’t even the truth. Your mind actually really has no proof of that any of the scenarios its feeding you will happen. Its just a perceived threat that is dramatized by our mind based on past experiences, beliefs, thoughts, emotions and society.
But we just soothe our longing to break down our walls by telling ourselves it is there to protect us.
Our past experiences, thoughts, beliefs & emotions are what built the walls around our heart, brick by brick. And as long as you have them up, you are strengthening them more and more, making it harder to ever get out.
But those walls are just a false sense of security. It’s really just an illusion of having control.
What if you could walk beyond those walls? Just unlock the door and go out. Just let what is outside of it in?
Will there be danger? Probably.
Will there be pain, disappointment, rejection? Most likely.
Will there be beauty, joy, excitement, fun, happiness, amazing experiences and all that life has to offer? Absolutely, but you’ll never know until you go beyond the walls, until you break them down and let your true self out and the world in.
You have the power to walk out of the artificial safety zone you’ve created for yourself at any time. And yes I know it seems very scary to some (I’ve just recently been there too). But is it really worth slowly causing your heart to harden and die because it isn’t functioning in the way it was always meant to?
We were not created to close our hearts. When we do, we physically, emotionally and mentally make ourselves ill.
The heart was created to give and receive love. That’s how it thrives. That’s what makes if feel alive. And when it is deprived of that it causes our authentic self to die little by little.
There will always be dangers, fears, painful experiences and things outside that you may not like. But there is so much more. There is freedom. There is joy. There is life. There is fresh air, interaction, connection, love & such beauty.
Don’t stay locked up inside the walls of your heart (or your house for that matter) because of fear.
If we can just learn to allow ourselves to let go of the walls we built around our hearts, we’ll learn that most of the fears we allowed our minds to create for us while locked up inside were nothing more than just fabrications of the mind.
The reality is that whether you stay inside or go outside of the walls, life is and will always happen exactly as it should. If it is your time to leave this world, keeping yourself locked up in your home or your heart can’t and won’t prevent that from happening when it is your time. Just like going out can’t cause it to happen any sooner than the divine plan with your life that was already mapped out before you were born.
So you might as well just free yourself. Unlock yourself from the prison you’re in. Don’t just exist … LIVE!
I promise you, you’ll look back at it and wonder why you ever stayed locked up in there for so long.
You don’t have to limit your experiences and your life to “stay safe”. Things are still going to happen exactly as they should anyway.
Inside of your little “safety zone” you might feel like you have it all figured out and under control, but the truth is we cannot ever really control anything in life. What must be will be.
The only thing we have control over is to choose to never close our hearts or lock ourselves in there ever again, no matter what.
For us as humans to thrive we need other people, we need love, we need experiences, we need to not be restricted or living in a constant state of fear.
Closing your heart isn’t creating safety. Its putting yourself in a prison.
Throughout your life you’ve stepped out daily into the unknown and encountered thousands of potential physical, emotional and mental dangers and threats. But guess what? If you’re still here that means so far YOU’VE SURVIVED THEM ALL!
Our perceived dangers in our world aren’t going anywhere. But we can choose whether they keep us locked up inside ourselves not fully living and experiencing all that this world and this life has to offer us.
If you’ve been hurt, disappointed, rejected or mistreated by life, people, love or experiences in the past, I understand why you may feel a little scared of dropping your walls. I understand that you feel the need to close your heart in order to protect yourself.
But please believe me when I say I’ve been there, and I can tell you that keeping your heart locked up harms you much more than letting it out. Locking it up behind walls isn’t serving your highest good at all. It isn’t serving the greater good of humanity either. It’s a false sense of security that holds you back from everything you truly desire and need. Locking your heart up behind walls will only end up hurting you more than letting it out and letting others in.
So I urge you to break down the walls. Go out there as your authentic, amazing and loving self. Love deeply. Live fully. Experience the fullness of what this life and this world has to offer. And allow yourself to receive love in every way that you were always meant to from the entire universe. That is your natural state. That is how you were always meant to thrive.
The world and humanity NEEDS that beautiful and amazing heart that you have to offer it and all of the love that you have to give!