5 Steps To Lasting Happiness (that nobody’s telling you about)

5 steps to lasting happiness blog by Mickey Roothman Coach, Speaker & Author

Happiness seems so hard to come by and even harder to hold onto, right?

The other day I was talking to one of my clients about why we struggle to hold onto the “new & improved me” and to remain positive and hold onto our happiness once we’ve chosen a better life. It got me thinking about my own journey of see-sawing up and down from the highest of highs to the lowest of lows in literally seconds at times. Now before I had gone on my self awareness and spiritual awakening journey to understand why we are who we are and do what we do, this was a common occurrence, but it didn’t make sense why it was STILL happening now that I knew better and had made the conscious choice to be happier and implemented the daily practices to back it (like meditation, daily reflection, questioning my thoughts, etc.) Even the apostle Paul wondered why he still did the things he didn’t want to do even after he chose to turn his life around.
”I do not understand what I do. For what I want to do I do not do, but what I hate I do. 16 And if I do what I do not want to do, I agree that the law is good. 17 As it is, it is no longer I myself who do it, but it is sin living in me. 18 For I know that good itself does not dwell in me, that is, in my sinful nature.[a] For I have the desire to do what is good, but I cannot carry it out. 19 For I do not do the good I want to do, but the evil I do not want to do—this I keep on doing. 20 Now if I do what I do not want to do, it is no longer I who do it, but it is sin living in me that does it”. – Romans 7:5-20
Have you ever notices that you can be on such a huge high, so positive and ready to be a nice human after watching an inspirational Youtube video or reading a powerful motivational quote, until …. something shitty happens in your day or your life that in one foul swoop just seems to knock you back down to a low vibe, negativity or lashing out at someone. See here’s the thing … We are “pre-programmed” as humans to resist happiness & feeling good. Yes, you heard me right. Our unconscious default setting is that we have to struggle, difficulty, and to feel guilty about being TOO successful, TOO happy, TOO wealthy. And when we finally have those things, we begin to feel guilty for having them. We go into fear about losing them and begin to wait for the other shoe to drop and for it to be ripped away from us at any second. But why? Because we’ve been sub-consciously programmed from a young age that good things don’t come easy and that they don’t last.

Before we dive into how to KEEP our happiness, lets look out how to find it first.

The route to finding real happiness can be described in one word: SELF-AWARENESS. See until we become aware of our own emotions, habits, beliefs, thoughts, actions, reactions and so on, we cannot really be happy. These are the very things that caused us not to be happy in the first place and until we become aware of them, we cannot begin to change them to change the outcome. Looking outside of ourselves for happiness just makes us fearful on an unconscious level anyway because we sub-consciously know that other people and external factors are the things we don’t have any control over. And as humans we fear what we can’t control (like other people for example). The reality is that the only thing we do have control over is OURSELVES. This is why finding happiness can only start by taking your focus off of what’s going on outside of you and becoming self-aware of whats going on within YOU!

So, once you’ve found real happiness, how do you hold onto it?

It took me several years of doing everything I knew to do to hold onto the new, positive and conscious living me to figure out what REALLY brings about lasting, tangible results when transforming our lives. Through my own personal life transformation journey from being broke, victimized, undervalued, sad, angry, stressed, anxious, lost, alone and directionless to consistently being happy, free, certain, clear, supported, successful, healthy, joyful and valued and over 10 000 hours of 1:1 coaching with my clients to identify exactly WHAT brings lasting change and transformation. What I identified was that we need to address the areas of our life that we want to transform on each of these 5 key levels: 1) Emotional 2) Behavioral 3) Mindset 4) Spiritual 5) Practical/Physical Let me unpack this for you a little further to help you to identify why your initial results and the “new & improved you” didn’t last. Often times traditional therapists work mostly only on the emotional level, right? Truth is that working on an emotional level and resolving underlying conscious or unconscious emotional traumas will help you to feel better, but if the particular situation isn’t addressed at the other 4 levels as well, the feeling better won’t last. For example, the experience may have caused you to form limiting beliefs about yourself, others, life, love, money, success or whatever, and those beliefs are still present (mindset). Which means you’ll continue creating, attracting & experiencing similar experiences because of them. There may be certain behaviors and patterns you formed because of the experience that need to be addressed too. For example you perhaps became a people-pleaser or an introvert because of the experience which means you are still behaving that way which isn’t the real you. This in turn causes unconscious thoughts and emotions of resentment, dissatisfaction and unhappiness because these are “learned” behaviors you developed and not the true you, which is inherently what we are wired to desire to achieve as human beings. Perhaps the situation or emotional traumas caused certain beliefs that you don’t have what it takes, you’re not as good as others or that you don’ t deserve to  or have the things you deem necessary to have a great life like everyone else. This is why we need to work on the spiritual level as well to re-frame those thoughts and beliefs and for you to re-connect with a Higher Power of your own understanding to remember who you really are and where your support and supply of everything you need comes from. And just in case you’ve forgotten or you’re wondering who you are …
You are not a limited human being trying to have some kind of spiritual experience here on earth and find your way or try to make it happen all on your own.  You are a powerful spiritual being having a human experience here on earth and you are connected to, guided and supported by the entire universe and the One who made it, while on your mission here on earth.
Lastly, we have to look at the practical and physical level as well.  If you don’t have actionable daily practices in place to continue growing and working on each of the other 4 levels daily, or you’re living in an environment that is toxic and not good for you, your transformation and the “new improved you” can’t last either. This is why its imperative to also look at your physical and practical circumstances, routines and daily practices. 5 steps to lasting happiness blog by Mickey Roothman Coach, Speaker & Author

Were you able to identify why the new & improved you and your new found happiness didn’t stand a chance of lasting?

In my coaching practice and my programs, whether I’m working with the CEO of a company or a single mother, I tackle all 5 of these levels. Because my mission is to give my clients the tools, methods and guidance to receive tangible, real and lasting transformations and results. My signature life transformation program is also designed to help you tackle each of these levels with whatever area of your life you’re ready to transform FOR GOOD! This program is a self-paced digital 12 week journey that my clients can complete from the comfort of their own home and in their own time.  It has proven to be one of the most popular programs for people who are seeking answers and a step-by-step process to really transform their lives to live their BEST LIFE POSSIBLE. I’m currently practically giving away this program at a crazy 85% off until 18 November 2019, so if YOU are ready to LIVE YOUR BEST LIFE POSSIBLE and for it to LAST, you can check out The Ultimate Life Transformation Program over here -> https://bit.ly/2JMbJA4


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[BLOG]: Dear Empath – You must learn to Observe not Absorb.

Whether you suspect you may be an Empath or you already know that you are one, you may resonate with the video below.

  Empaths are souls who are called to fulfill the role of transforming the fears, hurts and wounds of this world. Being an Empath is not something that you learn or decide. Its a part of your soul’s assignment while you are here. The video above illustrates what the life of an Empath is like. What it doesn’t show however is that Empaths don’t just feel and play a role in taking away the hurts, pains & fears of others only when they are physically with them, but they also feel the hurts, pains, fears and every other energy of others even through browsing social media, when talking to someone on the phone and even at times when they are just sitting at home alone minding their own business. Empaths are also at times the “victims” of other people’s projections whether the person is close to the Empath or a complete stranger. Energetically and spiritually, other souls can recognize an Empathic soul and because of their desperate need and desire to heal and grow at a soul level within themselves (which is usually something that they are not even consciously aware of), they tend to subconsciously project their hurts, fears and pains onto an Empath when they encounter one because their soul recognizes this Empathic soul as one that can help them to heal their subconscious wounds, fears and hurts. Although their projections are really just their soul’s cry for help and healing, the unconscious and unaware Empath who is still on a journey to learning who they are and what their gift is for, is usually left feeling hurt, unworthy, alone and sad. Empaths are very gentle and loving souls and the unconscious Empath is usually deeply hurt and fractured by these kinds of projections from others because their core desire at a soul level is really to heal and to love all souls and they see the essence and highest potential of all souls.

“Before I discovered that I was an Empath and learned exactly what the purpose of this gift is, I loathed being one.”

I use to believe that my purpose was to be everyone else’s hospital and to help them miraculously heal and recover and then watch them ride off happily into the sunset once they do. I use to say that I am like a train station. They pull in, refuel and off they go again. I believed my purpose was to help everyone else to be healed, happy & successful and never experience that kind of healing, happiness and success myself. As I am writing this I’m thinking, “No wonder I use to be in such conflict about being the kind of person who has the soul desire to help others, but at the same time also really hating who I was because I actually really just wished I was able to hate people since all they do is just end up hurting you because of their own fractured experiences and wounds and abandoning you once they’ve healed.” You see, part of the Empath’s journey here on earth is to discover that they are an Empath and then to learn through contrast how their gift is NOT meant to be used,  in order to learn exactly how to use this gift for what it was intended which is to serve all souls, including their own. The Empath who is perhaps still on a journey to discovering that they are one, or the Empath that is not living consciously, tends to absorb the energies, feelings & emotional hurts, wounds, pains and fears of others. But this gift of being able to feel and heal these things in others was never intended for the Empath to absorb these, but rather to observe them. The Empath’s role here is not to take these pains, fears and hurts of others away and onto themselves, but rather to become consciously aware of it and observe it. Why?  Because we are all connected in consciousness. Our souls know this even if our logical reasoning minds and our bodies don’t. Whatever we heal within ourselves we also heal in the world as a collective. So the Empath is merely made consciously aware of the other’s wounds, hurts, pains and fears to assist them in getting onto their own journey of becoming consciously aware, awakened and enlightened so that they can heal their wounds, pains and fears for themselves. Every experience and human interaction on our journey here on earth is always for the highest good for ALL souls involved to transpire through it. If you just as an Empath just absorb, and they heal, it only serves the highest good of one and not all involved. It took me many years to understand and embrace that I am an Empath. And another decade to understand why this is a gift and how it is intended to be used to serve the world and me on my own journey as well. If you have a suspicion that you may be an Empath, or you already know you that you are one, but you’re kinda hating being one at the moment, I hope this helps you on your journey. REMEMBER TO:  Observe not absorb! Write that down and put it up everywhere you can so that you are reminded of this several times a day. What helped me was to put it on my phone as an hourly reminder for myself. And the notification would usually come up during my day at a time where I needed to remember it the most! And if you know an Empath, give them some extra love and care. They tend to put everyone else’s needs, healing, happiness and love above their own, even if they’re going through their own stuff too 🙂 Now go out there and OBSERVE & HEAL! You were called and created as a lightworker and healer of this world and it is such a gift once you embrace it and  learn to observe and not absorb.
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[FREE VIDEO SERIES] 3 Steps To Achieving Success In Any Area Of Life!

Does it sometimes feel like you were served a GIANT COSMIC SLAP in a particular area of your life like finances, success or relationships, while everyone else seems to thrive and be successful at it?

In 2016 I lost nearly everything I had worked for for over a decade, due to a bad business decision. It wasn’t the first time I had been “done in” either and I really believed that perhaps it just wasn’t ordained for me to be happy and successful in certain areas of my life and that others were just “lucky”!
I kept up appearances, but the truth was that my “6 pack” wasn’t due to a great fitness routine, but rather because at times I couldn’t even afford to buy food. I found myself in a very dark place where I questioned life, people, myself and even God. I was ready to opt-out on life, and nobody even knew it! That experience was one of my biggest blessings because it forced me to FIND THE ANSWERS! Today, I’ve created a life and a career that I absolutely LOVE where I get to earn a fabulous income doing it too! And everyone’s noticing and asking HOW I did it! In my own life as well as the lives of my coaching clients, I’ve identified that there are 3 main reasons why certain areas of our lives are falling apart or just not working out while others seem to be thriving in those areas. I’ve seen many MIRACULOUS transformations in my own life and the lives of my clients and even the lives of some of my family and friends when these 3 things are addressed!

So I decided to create a FREE Video Series for you to show you exactly how I did it, and how YOU CAN DO IT TOO in just 3 easy steps!

NB: The Free Video Series will be available for a limited time only, so hurry up and check it out and get on the path to creating a life YOU love NOW!


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[FREE VIDEO]: So Your Life Transformation Results Didn’t Last – AGAIN! Here’s why!

Life Transformation Results We’ve all been there, right?  We decide to go on a life transformation journey, become a better version of ourselves & be more positive.  And then we start with the best of intentions to do whatever it takes to help us do just that! We start doing affirmations, meditating, reading inspirational books, listening to inspirational podcasts and even enroll in a coaching program or two to help us get there. And because we’re doing all of these things, our internal and external lives start shifting and we start seeing the RESULTS. We start understanding more about who we are and why we are here. We have some life altering aha-moments on the journey too and its REALLY AWESOME & EXCITING! We feel like we are ON TOP OF THE WORLD! But then suddenly, something happens and ….. BAM!  Everything comes crashing down and we feel like everything we’ve learned and done didn’t last! I’ve seen this happen to many people in my over a decade of coaching. And I’ve seen it happen to me in my own life as well. Not just with life transformation tools and practices but with just about any new habit or skill that we try to implement into our lives. We go onto a massive high but then it seems to all come crashing down at some point, which either leaves us feeling like it is impossible for us to change ourselves or our lives, like this stuff doesn’t work, or at the very least like it works but it just doesn’t seem to last. What if I told you there’s a reason why this happens to so many people? What if I told you there are ways you can ensure that the tools and practices you implement and the results you experience at first STICK? WATCH THIS VIDEO of one of my final live coaching session with one of my first ever groups to complete my signature program, The Ultimate Life Transformation Program.  In this video I reveal exactly why this happens and how you can stay on the path and make your results STICK! This video will only be up for a limited time so WATCH IT HERE NOW!
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[NEW BLOG] Science proves we see with our MIND and not with our eyes.


Did you know that it is scientifically proven that we actually see with our mind, and not with our eyes like we were taught from a young age already?

Now before you write that off as “that’s insane”, let me explain what I mean and show you that it is actually true! What if I told you we are all actually partially blind? And that right now you think you are seeing the world as it is, when in actuality, we are missing something in the actual picture that we see. Sounds crazy right? That’s what I thought at first too. But scientifically it has been proven to be true. When we open our eyes to see, light shines in onto our retina and nerve cells called photo-receptors then interpret that light and transmits that information to our brain. That is how we see. But there is a very small area on all of our retinas, where there are no photo-receptors. This is called a Scotoma, or blind spot, and we all have one! If this is true, then why is it that we never notice a black or a missing area in our field of vision then? The reason why we never notice our blind spot, is because our brain is extremely well trained in guessing what should be there and completing the picture for us and literally to fill in the blank. Our mind knows exactly what it is we want to see, based on our ways and patterns of thinking. When we open our eyes to see, and light hits our retina (including our blind spot) and that information is transmitted to the brain for interpretation, our necortex (the part of our brain that receives and stores information for decision making and remembering), turns our expectation into a kind of virtual reality, which then becomes our “reality” of what we physically see. That means that some of the world we see, could then almost be labelled as just an “illusion”. Because our mind completed the picture for us based on our individual way of thinking and thus we see the world really as we think. So how do we identify and see our blind spots then? How do we ever then fully see the truth of what is really right in front of our eyes? By opening and changing our minds and the way we THINK!   This really helps us understand exactly why we all really actually see things differently. From our own perception. But most of all, it makes the way we think and re-programming our minds and our limiting beliefs that much more important if we want to start seeing a different wold show up in our reality! Because our way of thinking is literally altering how each of us individually end up seeing the full picture and our own world around us, our lives! At this point you may be thinking: “That’s great Mickey, but HOW exactly do I do that? HOW do I start thinking differently and reprogramming my mind?” That’s exactly what I asked before I went on my journey of understanding exactly how to do that, and it is exactly the reason why I created my Ultimate 12 week Life Transformation Program to provide actionable steps that gives you tangible results both in your mind and soul, but also as a bonus, in your external reality as well. The program consists of a combination of the proven actionable steps and exercises that I applied to my own life and experienced massive results with. I’ve also seen them render amazing results in the lives of my friends, family, clients and students who have applied them as well. I was super excited to hear the amazing testimonies, because that’s exactly what the content of the program was designed to do! Bring TANGIBLE RESULTS!   But just like everything else, although the exercises are extremely powerful, they need to be done consistently in order for your “default” way of thinking to start changing permanently! The brain is like any other muscle. The more you exercise it, the better it gets at its new way of thinking! To change the way you think you need to change your perception. You need to re-frame your limiting thoughts and beliefs.  A program like my 12 Week Life Transformation Program can help, but it is an ongoing journey, a conscious choice to think differently, so that you can see the world differently. You can view more details about my 12 week program here.   Much love and blessings, Mickey

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